Coping with College Decisions

On Thursday, March 26, 2025 — known as “Ivy Day” — the eight Ivy League universities are expected to simultaneously release their regular admission decisions. Top schools that are not in the Ivy League have different decision release dates. For thousands of students worldwide, these results will reshape their plans, dreams, and futures.

Many students have devoted years of hard work to secure a coveted spot at an Ivy League institution. Yet, the reality is that these schools have extremely limited seats. While we all hope for good news, the truth is that not everyone will be admitted. It’s essential to remember: that a rejection doesn’t reflect your worth or potential. Admissions decisions are shaped by an overwhelming surge in applications, forcing colleges to make tough choices — ones that are often beyond your control.

It’s okay to feel disappointed. If you need help processing your emotions, here’s a guide to navigating this moment:

Rejection Hurts

After pouring your heart and energy into your application, it’s natural to feel heartbroken. Permit yourself to feel those emotions. Take a moment to unwind — watch your favorite movie, indulge in comfort food, or spend time doing what makes you feel safe and happy.

Remember, Ivy League schools reject more than 95% of applicants — not because you aren’t good enough, but because they simply don’t have space for everyone. You’re in good company among many brilliant, accomplished students facing the same outcome.

Shift Your Perspective

1. Write it out. Make two lists — one with reasons why this rejection feels like the worst thing that could happen, and another imagining a letter from your future self a year from now. Picture yourself thriving at a different college, making new friends, and pursuing exciting opportunities. When you’re done, throw away the first list and hold on to that hopeful letter.

2. Consider the waitlist. If you’ve been waitlisted, it’s not over yet. Decide whether you want to submit additional materials or a letter of continued interest to stay on their radar.

Time for Plan B (or C)

Ask yourself: what made that specific Ivy League school feel like the right fit? Was it the program, location, prestige, or opportunities? Chances are, other schools on your list offer similar — if not better — paths to achieving your goals. Yes! Remember that you have other options, great colleges full of wonderful people who want you to apply to them. You will have spent time finding out about them and there must have been good reasons why you put them on your list. In time, where you went will matter much less than the experience you gained by being there.

Setbacks like this are part of life, but they don’t define you. Success isn’t about the name on your diploma — it’s about the knowledge you gain, the experiences you create, and the person you become along the way.

You’re Not Alone

It will be hard to hear from friends wanting to share the good news of being accepted into their college of choice, while you are grieving for the one that let you slip by. Don’t allow yourself to withdraw from family and friends, they will be the ones to offer support and comfort, helping you to get back on top once again. It’s okay to feel left out — but don’t isolate yourself. Talk to somebody you feel comfortable talking to. Experiences, both good and bad, are better when shared with somebody you are close to. Lean on your family, friends, or even a counselor. They’re here to help you get through this.

Every journey looks different. Your path is still yours to shape — and great things are still ahead.